Things not to Say

I remember when Wes was deployed I read a bunch of "What not to say to an army wife" type things. Things like:
*Are you afraid he'll never come home
*Aren't you lonely
....etc, etc. The list goes on.

Now that I have multiples, I feel it's time to compile a new list: "What not to do/say around Twins." I only have a few, so this will have to be ongoing. Let me know if you have more ideas:
*Don't say, "Oh look, twins!"...or ask "Are they twins?" for that matter
*Don't stop us and comment
* Staring and pointing is never nice...didn't your Mama teach you better?
*Say to the older child, "Are you Mommy's big helper?" For some reason this seems messed up to me! She's 3, she's a kid too. And, just as special as the other 2 that just happen to be "TWINS!"
*Say, "Boy, aren't you brave to go out". NO! I'm not brave. These are my kids and we do stuff. Don't you take your children out to do things?

I think a lot of my frustration comes because I have an older child too. I just fear she gets super sick of everyone stopping us every 5 feet to chat. We were trying to eat lunch at the mall the other day and people kept coming up and talking while we were eating! Just let us eat. If they weren't talking to us, you could feel their stares. How would you feel if someone was ALWAYS commenting on your little brothers? I think there's a GOOD REASON why Elliot acts out sometimes. I would too!

Maybe if nothing else I've gotten a new appreciate for how people with disabilities feel, or how people who are just "different" may feel. Sounds ridiculous, but true. I've really learned to not stare at people and just appreciate them for who God has made them. A HUGE thing I've learned is to not try to talk to people with twins, ask questions about their kids, etc.

We're just a family, trying to live life like every other family.